The Darling Letters

Carol Ann Duffy

‘The Darling Letters’ by Carol Ann Duffy describes the way love letters transition from being full of devotion, to containing nothing by recriminations. 

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Carol Ann Duffy

Nationality: England

Carol Ann Duffy is considered to be one of the most significant contemporary British writers.

She is recognized for her straightforward, unrelenting approach to gender issues.

‘The Darling Letters’ is a short Carol Ann Duffy poem in which the poet uses several interesting literary devices to speak about the nature of relationships and how they change over time. She embraces this change as something one might not have expected at first but is now resigned to as they look back over papers that used to mean so much to them.

The Darling Letters by Carol Ann Duffy


The Darling Letters’ by Carol Ann Duffy describes the way that loves letters transition from being full of devotion to containing nothing by recriminations.

The poem begins with the speaker describing how lovers from all different places keep and store their letters from the past. Some, she states, are kept in boxes where they cannot be seen unless the keeper seeks them out. This does happen every once in a while and brings to the surface elements of the past that one forgot. 

These elements are often deeply moving and embarrassing as they are read out of their original context. These letters are full of moments that make one feel awkward and unnerved about how they were in the past. 

Additionally, the speaker raises the question of why the letters are even kept at all, especially if they raise all these uncomfortable emotions. She clarifies that she thinks this is the case because one is still able to feel the promise of the future that is present in the writings. This is something that they cannot part with. 


Duffy engages primarily with the theme of relationships in ‘The Darling Letters.’ This includes all the various states relationships can be in. The love letters that are central to the poem are s symbol of the changes one goes through, mentally and emotionally, when it comes to their own past, especially their love life. When once the letter brought the reader joy and peace, no, they’re more embarrassing or exasperating. The speaker, as mentioned above, starts to wonder what the point of keeping the letters is. They are a promise, she concludes, of what could come and what was possible. It’s something that’s hard to let go of.

Structure and Form

‘The Darling Letters’ by Carol Ann Duffy is a three-stanza poem that is divided into sets of six lines, or sestets. Additionally, each stanza is made up of a number of different phrases that carry the reader through an understanding of what a love letter is in its conception and what it becomes as the relationship progresses.

Literary Devices

Duffy makes use of several literary devices in ‘The Darling Letters.’ These include but are not limited to enjambment, alliteration, and caesura. The latter refers to the moments that the poet inserts pauses into the middle of lines. For example, in line two of the first stanza which reads: “They start with Darling; end in recriminations,” or in line one of the third stanza. It reads: “Babykins… We all had strange names.”

Alliteration is a type of repetition. It can be seen when the poet uses words that start with the same consonant sound next to or near one another. For example, “lid lifts” in line two of the first stanza and “fingers” and “future” in lines four and five of the second stanza.

Enjambment is a formal device that’s concerned with the transition between lines. For example, that which occurs between lines three and four, and six and seven, of the first stanza. Readers have to go down to the next line in order to reach the end of a sentence or phrase.

The Darling Letters Analysis

Stanza One

Some keep them in shoeboxes away from the light,
sore memories blinking out as the lid lifts,
fall flat in the gaps between the endearments. What
are you wearing?

In the first stanza, the speaker describes one’s initial impression of a love letter, from where it is found and kept, to how they begin. She makes clear in the first lines that the way that lovers handle letters is different from relationship to relationship. With this in mind, she describes that some of these letters are kept in ”shoeboxes away from light.” 

This raises an interesting question about why one would hide something away that was written out of devotion. What is the reasoning behind keeping these objects out of sight? In the second line she emphasizes, through personification, the impact that hiding one’s current or past emotions result in. 

She states that when one is finally ready to have the surface of the letters again, perhaps long after the relationship is over, they come out as “sore memories blinking” in the light of the room. The writer of these letters will then be confronted by a version of themselves they are no longer familiar. 

These letters will bring back into one’s mind he passed “Private jokes,” which can no longer be “comprehended,” as well as leading statements like, “What / are you wearing?” One is forced to contend with their own “recklessness.” 

Stanza Two

Don’t ever change.
the Darling letters, stiff in their cardboard coffins.

In the second stanza, the speaker continues her narration about what these letters are revealing to the recipient and reader. Another phrase that sticks out to the speaker from the general history of letters, “Don’t ever change.” These simple and uncreative messages meant something to the one receiving them but now stick out as being purposeless. 

The piece continues with the narrator describing how a relationship evolves through letters. They might start out as being full of love and end up with “recriminations.” The lovers blame one another for any flaws in the relationship, and everyone ends up with a sense of “absence” and “loss.” 

It is clear in the following lines that the speaker is considering why letters between lovers are kept. She comes to the conclusion that this is because one can still imagine the “future” one saw then and believed in. The future appears as budding “flowers” and is appreciated through the “trac[ing]” of each line of text on the paper. 

No one, the speaker states, would dare burn this vision of the future. Instead, they are put away in “cardboard coffins.” 

Stanza Three

Babykins… We all had strange names
like a spade on buried bones.

The third stanza is striking in that it begins with one of the pet names that might be used by lovers, “Babykins.” The speaker hears the strangeness of this word and how now, it might “make us blush.” 

The words of the past make one feel as though “we’d murdered / someone under an alias.” It is like a dirty past is coming up from the basement to confront one with how they were in another life. 

The poet adds another few words and phrases which might come from love letters and provide later embarrassment for the reader.

In the final lines, the speaker reengages with the idea of putting away and rediscovering the letters. This experience makes one’s “heart thud,” a sound that resembles the sound of a “spade” hitting “buried bones.” This is yet another reference to a resurfacing of the past and how dramatic and emotional that moment can be.  

Similar Poetry

Readers who enjoyed ‘The Darling Letters’ should also consider reading some of Duffy’s other poems. For example, Beautiful,’The Map-Woman,‘ and A Dreaming Week.’ In the latter, Duffy explores escapism through writing and reading while perhaps hinting at the melancholy that she’s trying to escape. ‘Beautiful’ explores the damage that beauty can cause, specifically in regards to four women: Helen of Troy, Cleopatra, Marilyn Monroe, and Princess Dianna. ‘The Map-Woman’ delves into depictions of the female body and the association of beauty with the female form.

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Emma graduated from East Carolina University with a BA in English, minor in Creative Writing, BFA in Fine Art, and BA in Art Histories. Literature is one of her greatest passions which she pursues through analyzing poetry on Poem Analysis.
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